Whether you failed in your exams, denied promotion in the office, or could not make it to the next marathon, the feeling of failure is really hard to overcome. Most of us go to great lengths to avoid the pain of failure so that they won’t have to deal with those difficult emotions. This is because, in this high-achieving society that we live in, failure is considered as one of the worst situations to encounter.

However, the truth is failure is never the end of your journey. It is simply an indicator that you need to put in more effort to reach your goals. If you are struggling to move past your failures, here are some honest lessons on how to deal with failure in your life:

  1. Overcome Irrational Beliefs about Failure

All the illogical and false beliefs that you have in your head about failure make it hard for you to accept that failure is necessary for your growth. All of such thoughts prevent you from taking risks in life and you just keep playing safe all your entire life to avoid failure. If you want to go big in life, you’ll have to learn that failure is part of the process. As soon as you learn this, the journey towards your goals becomes easier.

  1. Embrace Your Emotions

When you encounter failure in any area of your life, don’t try to hide or ignore it. Sit alone with yourself and embrace how you are feeling. Tell yourself that it’s okay to feel this way but it’s not okay to stop your life just because you experienced failure.

  1. Identify Your Mistakes and Move Forward

Once you are stable with your emotions, take a notebook and write down all the mistakes you made that lead you towards failure.  Identify your weaknesses, work on them, and then create a plan based on the lessons you learned to move forward in life.


Clive Reed is an author, blogger, entrepreneur, and Editor-in-Chief of clivereedbooks.com from New Milford, New Jersey. He has written many books related to self-development and stress management.